Condemn Others For Good Reasons?

In this entry, I’d like to stress about a behavior that is quite common in our society – condemning others. According to the freedictionary.com (an online dictionary), condemning means to pronounce judgment against, or sentence for example ‘condemned the felons to prison’. In my own words, or my simple explanation is, to provide evidence or proves and to suggest, that a particular person or group of people has done ‘wrong doings’ and some sort of action should be taken upon him/her or them.

 

Let me detail an example here.

Let say, you and your spouse have gone through a hard life together for quite some times, or let just put a number such as 10 years. That is probably due to financial problems that both of you are facing. Now, let say your brothers and sisters happened to be quite wealthy, or they are living the BEST of life could offer – money is never a problem. So, their lifestyle and your lifestyle, of course would be like both ends of a rope.

At one time, probably, you and your spouse had gone into a quarrel which related to the financial problems; and to be exact, let say because your spouse has been in a bad debt situation and has been haunted by the money collectors for ages. Being aware of your situation, your brothers and sisters, even probably your aunts and uncles, were not happy for you.  Out of concern of your well-being, they decided to help you. At one fine day, they got together and called you for a family meeting or ‘talk’.  In the meeting, they CONDEMNED your spouse for the hard life that you had gone through all these while and SUGGEST that you should file a divorce or asked for a divorce.

Ok… Condemning others, is a behavior that is quite common in our society. The example that I have given here, is an act of condemning others for ‘a good reason’. Well, normally I heard people condemned other people , always for a good purpose or for the person (they want to help) own good. 

“Look, I don’t mean to interfere with your life, but I think, I should tell you that ‘this person’ or ‘that person’ has taken an advantage of you and you are the one who are suffering, and I don’t like to see it’s happening to you… “

“Don’t take this wrongly, we are telling you all these, for your own good…”

It’s really interesting because, many who are so concern for someone they ‘love’, with an intention of helping him/her, would condemn the others and suggest the ‘right’ thing for him/her to do or act, which is AGAINST the others. 

This has been more interesting, when what many would suggest, however will never be of their responsibility. Should the person they are ‘helping’ act as suggested, it would not affect them at all. The only person who will definitely responsible for the suggested ‘action’ is the person himself/ herself. Due to ‘good reasons’, they are FREE from anything that happens as a consequences (I bet). This has been really interesting! Really, really interesting!

Let me stress here that ANY ACT OF CONDEMNING OTHERS FOR ‘GOOD REASONS’ will forever be an act of CONDEMNING! And to me, once you condemn other people… there is NEVER for a good reason! NEVER!

My advice : Don’t CONDEMN others! You never know if that person you condemned is actually A TEST to see if you are a good person or the opposite! 

Allahualam bissawab. God bless you…

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